Community Group Discussion Questions

August 12th 2018: Finding the True You

Opening

  • Describe a time where you felt truly loved.
  • Describe a time where you felt you could truly be yourself.

Discussion

  • Read Hebrews 9:1-15. What was the first covenant and what was the heart of the first covenant?
  • How does God providing a way into the inner room show his mercy?
  • Just like the Jewish people had a religious system, we often have something that makes us feel good about ourselves, something that helps us clear our conscience. What makes you feel close to God? How do you enter into his presence? What clears your conscience?
  • This “good stuff” we do to make ourselves feel better is all an attempt to get to God. How have you seen these things ultimately fail? What is the answer?
  • Eric described having a tired soul. Do you have a tired soul? Are you a tired Christian?
  • How does placing your trust in Jesus relieve you of the exhaustion of trying to clear your conscience, be closer to God and enter into his presence on your own?
  • What’s the problem with just being outwardly clean?
  • What is the new covenant about?
  • Where do you still live under the old covenant (what do you do to feel good about yourself or about you and God?)
  • How can you look at what Jesus has done and not at what you have done to feel loved? How does this give you freedom to be who you truly are?

Application

  • What is one thing you can do this week to unconditionally love someone you’re close to and by doing that, allow them to discover who they really are?
  • What is one thing you can do this week to rest in the fact that God loves you for you?

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August 5th  2018: Ted Lowe Talk

Opening

  • What is one thing you wish people would tell you every day?
  • What is one thing you wish people would stop saying to you?

Discussion

“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” We’ve all heard that children’s rhyme, but it’s not really true, is it? Words can hurt us. They have the power to build us up or tear us down . . . especially words that come out of the mouths of those closest to us. You look to the people who know you best—for emotional safety, security, and encouragement. They look to you for the same.

  • What can you do to maximize the power of your words in order to build up and not tear down?
  • Talk about a time when someone’s words tore you down. What were the long-term effects of those words?
  • Talk about a time when someone’s words built you up? What were the long-term effects of those words?
  • Do you tend to respond to conflict by arguing or by giving the person you’re experiencing conflict with the silent treatment? What are some of the costs of your approach?
  • What are some reasons we say the things we don’t want to say and don’t say the things we do?
  • Tell someone in your group one thing you admire about him or her. How do you benefit from that quality in that person?
  • Under which of the H.A.L.T. conditions (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired) are you likely to speak unkind words to those closest to you? What are some things you can do to slow down and avoid saying something you don’t mean?

Application

  • What is one thing you can do this week to speak more positive words to those who are closest to you? How can this group support you?

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